In the song Contemplate by Wale, he brings up the topic of listening. Referencing his romantic interest he states, “Cut me off every time I’m talkin’, which means she aint never hear nottin” Its a strange topic to think about, to break down conversation, because it is a natural thing that we have… but can’t it also be improved?
I absolutely love the conversation structure of The Big Lebowski, one person is not done talking before another begins their thought in that movie. The pace is great, and in my mind adds an urgent flow, which leads to excitement to the conversation. For me, to hear another’s voice is to assume at least a comradery with them, if we are entering into conversation. With said comradery comes an implied level of respect for one another, so if we are quick to interject ideas into the train of thought, neither party is apt to take offense.
We play a game of verbal Tetris, manipulating and stacking topics and thoughts until we arrive at an agreeable outcome, then the long straight block clears the rows. At which point, silence… thoughts rebuild, its a fucking Z block on the way, shitty start to a new row, but also… interesting. This is the point of humming, of eye wondering, of smiling, and baseless gigles. The music starts and Dr Mario is throwing pills at us. Crap, its a whole new game… its a whole new game! but we are prepared for it, the ground rules are familiar, hell the stage is almost identical. Don’t let the lab coat intimidate.